Months have passed since the last time I wrote here. It felt nostalgic. Many things have already happened, and some have really had a significant impact on my life. As time slowly passes by, I can say that I am also moving towards what I want to do.
Pain, sacrifices, sadness, and challenges changed me. If I was to compare myself months ago, I’d be specific, during the first month of quarantine between now. At that point in my life, I was a selfless girl who let other people take advantage of what I could do for them. A girl who only focused on the things that didn’t even matter. A girl who does something that doesn’t make her happy. A girl who is afraid of letting people go, and she doesn’t even notice that she is slowly losing her worth. But now, I am proud to say that I am no longer that girl. I am a woman who knows my worth and won’t let anyone dictate how worthy I am. I do things that make me happy. I no longer think of other people’s opinions and judgment towards me. As long as I am so glad and it doesn’t affect other people negatively, there would be no problem. Other people’s perspectives are not necessary. My own perspective towards myself is the only thing that matters.
I’ve watched this particular influencer and learned so much from her about improving yourself and becoming a better person. She unknowingly helped me to overcome the fear I have within myself. I’ve gained much confidence if I were to compare it with my old self. Also, as I tried to see things clearly, I’ve learned this one of the most essential principles. And that is, don’t compare yourself to other people’s best. Like what we see on social media, we might somehow feel insecure about those girls who seem perfect because they’re not. No one’s perfect. They are also just trying to show off the best features they had. That’s why you see it that way. We are all equally beautiful. Think of it carefully. Would the “girls” you’ve been trying to compare yourself to, is showing off their negative sides? No, they’re not. You are totally comparing your insecurities and bad sides to their best side. And that’s not okay. The best competition you can have is yourself.
Try to set a standard higher than what you think that you can do. Challenge yourself. There is no harm in trying, especially when your main goal is to make progress. It might take a lot of time and effort, but it would surely pay off. The process is the most exciting and essential part of achieving your goals. Don’t be scared to do things differently, and we must go out of our comfort zone. Do the thing that scares you, and you’ll thank yourself later. Life is too short to waste our time. Again, as I always say. Wander with Me as I discover more things about myself.
Wander with Me 